(Posted by Cathy DuBois)   In this installment on the 7 Stages of Grief I will acquaint you with more ideas that you may find intriguing. So, if you have not yet done so, please read my last four Blogs (link to Part 4 at the bottom of this page) so you are up to speed.  I am also re-listing the Stages to help with our discussion.

7 Stages of Grief

  • Shock
  • Denial
  • Anger
  • Bargaining
  • Depression
  • Testing
  • Acceptance

    Last Blog I introduced you to Stuart Wilde and his Tick-Tock Funnel. This goes along with the “Crabs in a Barrel” saying.  As one crab tries to make his way out of the barrel, inch by inch, there are always crabs ready and willing to grab onto him and pull him back down to be trapped with all the other unfortunate crabs. Because “Misery loves company” and all that stuff.

   The funnel analogy gives a twist, however.  If you keep climbing and escape the “pull” of others you can get up and out.  Is it fast? Not usually.  Is it worth it?  Most definitely! If you know what to look for and how to deal with it, your trip up and out will be a lot easier.

    Fear of the unknown will instantly trigger the ego defenses and is probably the one thing that keeps people stuck in Tick-Tock once they are starting to realize there is a lot more to life than they thought. The belief that maybe if I just go to church, or a certain school, or do a specific job in a particular way I will finally find happiness and a reason to get up every day. I will make a real and true friend or partner and might get rid of this feeling that I am in the wrong place doing the wrong thing for me.

   That is called Denial which is Stage 2 and mixes with Bargaining or Stage 4 of the Levels of Grief. You see, for you to start having these mental exercises you have to be sensing on some level that you are not where you want to be and something needs to change. Something is beginning to enter your consciousness in a big way. You are being nudged to grow up and out.

   I ran across an article today I wanted to share with you about how to deal with fear and denial.  I hope you can draw some helpful information from it to become more conscious of your ego reasons to stay in Tick-Tock.

   When you become conscious that this is actually a process and not a destination, each new revelation will be a challenge and not be so hard to process. If you would like me to help you navigate this passage you are making, please contact me and we can start a dialog.

    If this is new to you, get educated.  But you better hurry up. If you need guidance to navigate through all of the psycho – behavior that you may run into, email me at  I can share links and websites I believe in and follow. I am available to teach you about boundaries and give you some life-skills to help you cope.  Don’t allow disrespectful people to control your life’s path.

    New energies are now flooding Gaia, our beautiful planet. They are also blessing us with the ability to quickly go beyond all that has been holding us back IF that is where we want to go. So please decide you want to be free to live in peace and contribute your love and light to all.

    This is the New Gaia and is the home of the Creator Beings.  Practice it, think about it and let go of the past.   It is time to chose who you want to be and consciously be that now.  If you want more guidance on this important topic stay tuned for more resources.

Happy creating!

    Please feel free to share this original work with others as it is written.

Thank you.

Author Notes:  Cathy DuBois is a healer, teacher, coach and Dr. of Clinical Hypnotherapy.

She is a published author and seeker of truth.  Visit her website at